|Posted on October 16, 2016 at 4:40 PM|
"He who would be serene and pure needs but one thing, detachment." - Meister Eckhart
It takes an enormous amount of self-reflection to acknowledge that we cannot percieve anything which is not within our own frame of reference. Suffice it to say, if we perceive something in another person, it must be because we also possess the very same qualities we are observing. "Mirrors" apply to both positive and negative traits. To grasp the concept of mirrors, we must also familiarize ourselves with the concept of detachment. This has to be initiated quickly but in no way am I suggesting that we separate ourselves from the entire physical world in one swift action. The process, much like what is taught in Buddhism, must be done in careful, calculated stages. The stages naturally cover the entire gamut of our human condition: physical, emotional or astral, mental and spiritual. An opportune time to practice would be when we interact with people and, in our minds, we start to react or judge another's behavior. It is safe to say that our first instinct would probably be to bring it to their attention in a judgmental, albeit not-so-mindful, way. Perhaps we want to seem better than them in the sense of giving them a piece of our mind - even when we are not being asked for advice. Or it could also be that we genuinely feel that we are the do-gooders of the world and therefore must take action by giving them some options to change the perceived behavior.
“A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world; everyone you meet is your mirror.” ~ Ken Keyes
You will discover that working with the stages towards detachment can be much like peeling an onion. It is safe to say that we cannot unlearn what we have already learned. The only way to dismantle the habits and thought-patterns we have inherited from our surroundings is to identify the purpose, the motive and the root of why these experiences were necessary for us to have in the first place. Much like our social conditioning, it so rarely happens that we are able to discriminate wisely what we are learning from those around us: teachers, parents, siblings, friends, clergy, politicians, and the media. We just take it all in like an eagerly dry sponge waiting to be soaked in a bucketful of information. And in this age of information overload, it is much harder to decipher what is disposable and what is absolutely necessary. Which of these lead us towards a life-affirming existence? And which contribute mostly to our illusions?
Information VS Knowledge
"I never resist temptation, because I have found that things that are bad for me do not tempt me." - Bernard Shaw
Who among us truly consider experiential knowledge as our life's priceless gift? If anything, our image of ourselves cannot wait to sweep the "bad" and "humiliating" experiences under the carpet to be forgotten forever. As the storytellers who are enacting the very script we have written for ourselves, we unravel the threads and the synchronicities of our life with those around us. We start to see clearly that our experiences are within our midst because we have called them forth through our own personal stories. All of it: the good, the bad and the ugly. This approach is accountable and responsible - with no room for negation and doubt. Everything is useful, has clarity and purpose.
The anguish and despair one feels, for example, in a bout of depression is our inability to come up with our own higher dimensions of reality. The sensation of feeling trapped in ones own drama is seen paralleled with sexual energy that is stuck in the extreme base-ness of the lower chakras. This can also be likened to other sense-relegated reactions such as panic, rage, invincibility, excitation, boredom, lust, grief, jealousy, etc. Ideally when inspiration is lacking in our awareness, the denser reactions manifest in our realities.
Detachment from polarized emotionality takes practice and patience. Silencing the mind has a power about it that is only the beginning of a series of steps that culminate towards the act of opening our hearts. Although a painful process at first, allowing for the heart to be open, defenseless and vulnerable must be our ultimate aspiration in the pursuit of inner and outer silence.
Listening to the Voice of Silence
Our higher nature's yearning is so strong that it can endure even the aimless confusion that is predominant during the early stage of transition. In a panic brought on by drowning in this opalescent sea of choices, we grasp for the proverbial life-jacket closest to us. Astrology, ancient wisdom, yoga, meditation, religion and other avenues of practice and philosphies are all distinct possibilities. For some, the search for meaning may last a few months, and for others, a few years. Yet once our furtive groping for information and literature has passed, it will not be long until demonstrable spiritual realizations appear to help us find a way. The heart never lies, as we hope to find the most appropriate path in a new and unknown world of self-discovery.
Standing In Solitude
It is a fact that all humans crave interaction with the world around them. We see this manifest completely for ourselves when we simply cannot stay put and be in our own company. For most of us, solitude is a prison sentence. We all want to love and be loved. In such times we turn to the Outside World - distractions such as entertainment, emotional and mental attachments, and recreational dangers. In this way we can drown out whatever wisdom the Inner World of our true being is trying to communicate to us. For fear of hearing the reality of our worldly situation, we compromise ourselves by settling for unhealthy alliances with influences and conditions that do more harm than good. Not to say that this is unwise; on the contrary, it does serve a purpose. This allows for optimal opportunities for self-reflection. We start to feel unnerved and panic-stricken when we realize that most people in our daily lives hold very little meaning or true purpose for us. We begin to decipher the concept of mirrors and what behaviors are being reflected for us. All we really ever have to work with is the present moment. The trimming of the unruly, over-grown branches of the proverbial tree of life, much like the reconditioning of the brain's reflexive neural pathways, has to start somewhere. (Much like the pruning of fruit trees to bear healthier fruit)
"People are always the mirrors in which we see our own reflection. But these mirrors also show us our prejudices. If some reflect love and others reflect anger, then we can see whom we love, and whom we treat with disdain. We are all inherently dishonest, but our mirrors never lie. Mirrors always show us exactly how we think, feel and act towards the world around us. We can deny a reflection as loudly and as vehemently as we like, but it will never change until we ourselves change. Once one has changed, then one's reflection must also change - such is the law of light and reflection." - Theun Mares, Return of the Warriors